Fifteen years, fifteen reasons..

There are many reasons why I love to be married to My Darling.  

Here is just one for each year of our marriage!

I love the way he makes me laugh till we both cry and I get cramps in my tummy!

I love the way he makes me feel safe and protected.

I love the twinkle in his eye that tells me he still has the naughty little boy deep inside!

I love the way he swept me off my feet nearly twenty years ago.

I love his curious but wicked sense of humour.  He sees humour in things that others miss by a mile.

I love how capable he is and how able.

I love the way he loves Nikh and The Ray, unconditionally and overtly.

I love his confidence and his reserved quality.

I love the way he holds me back at times and lets me fly at times.

I love how he challenges my ideas and tones down my impetuosity.

I love his quiet calm in the face of my frantic fury.

I love that he supports my decisions even if they are not always what he thinks is the best for me.

I love the way he sings slightly off key and a few beats before the words start.

I love that he completes me and with him I feel I can do or be anything.

I just love HIM.... totally and irrevocably..... for the last twenty years and for the next million.

Happy 15th Anniversay, My Darling!

Unlucky for Some!!

Thirteen years! Wow! Thirteen years! I still can't believe it!
Yup, today is our wedding anniversary and when you add in our five year mammoth engagement, it is actually more like EIGHTEEN years that Biren and I have been together.
My romantic (then!) boyfriend 'married' me with a ring pull from a coke can when we were in a tiny little temple up in Nandi Hills (or someplace near Bangalore - I was completely jet lagged!) and it was just the two of us, he pledged his undying love, fidelity and forever happily ever after in a stone room which was so small we had to bend over to go inside or risk losing the tops of our heads!
That was 1991 when we were announcing our engagement to the world, here in India. What a long way we have come since then. We had our registry wedding in October 1995, the full on Indian wedding, minus a video, in March 1996, moved houses three times in London less than 100 metres from each other! We have had Nikhil, our miracle! Then moved to India, had an ectopic pregnancy and a few miscarriages. Found out we were expecting another baby, but no heartbeat. Flew to London to find a heartbeat, thank goodness! Had Rhea, here in Chennai, our second miracle baby! Moved houses twice in Chennai. Nikhil has moved several schools. We have made loads of friends and acquaintances. We have bought and sold cars and various household appliances! Travelled to places in Europe, America and Asia. Had parties - surprise and not!

We have had humongous, massive, enormous fights ... I am happy to say that I have realised that our fights are almost always about things and people outside of the two of us! The spats are not about him and me!
It really doesn't help that I am not the meek and mild traditional Indian wife who touches her husband's feet each day, idolises him and worships the ground he walks upon! I do however think the fights are quite healthy for a relationship! The making up is pretty good, too!

I must say though, that even now, when he turns on the charm, gets a certain glint in his eye and turns the full power of his tiger brown eyes on me - well, puddle of mush is the result!

Long may it last!!

btw - I do have one picture of our wedding day but it is in adobe format so if anyone knows how to make it into a regular attachment I can upload it to my blog!! just call me technologically challenged!!